Happiness, Friends & Slumber

one The Dalai Lama has been quoted saying that “The central method for achieving a happier life is to train your mind in a daily practice that weakens negative attitudes and strengthens positive ones.” Think happy thoughts and make the unhappy ones go away. In with the Einstein, out with the Hitler.

two Sleep tight and often. It's almost impossible to be happy when you are completely exhausted. Get your rest and you'll be happier. You'll look better too, so there's that. Just get your rest when you can.

three Have friends who are important to you. Cultivate those relationships and make sure they grow. Friends make you happier and they are like little love bombs adding to your radiance.  Friends make this whole trip a lot more fun and you would be silly not to have some.

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Think about it - No mind readers

pertama Learn how to ask for help. Do not expect anybody to read your mind. Everybody else in the world has a big ol life going on and you are not the center of all of it. There will come a time when you need help: Do not be too proud (or stupid) to ask for it. Conversely: If you ask for too much help too often you become a leech and an emotional soul-sucker. Walk this line thoughtfully.

kedua Mind your mouth. Just because you are capable of thinking it doesn't mean that you ought to say it out loud. Seriously. Humor me here. I've heard some really smart people say some really stupid things. Just practice using your speaking governor. Think things through for just a minute before you speak.

ketiga Some things require an actual whole night's sleep to process and figure out. These are typically the bigger (bordering on life-changing serious freaking stuff) ~ things that make people say, "hhhmmmm.... let me sleep on that and I'll get back to you." Not enough can be said about a good solid slumber to help you see things more clearly... in a different light. Don't EVER let someone (salesmen, mates, children) talk you into anything if you have even a smidge of doubt. 
On this one, you don't have to trust me, you have to trust your instincts.

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Sleeping on the Porch

first Sleep outside on the porch if it's ever a safe option. We had a great porch once on Oakland - we practically lived out there. In fact, most of the block lived there. Porches are incredible places to hang. If you can stay up too late there and fall asleep, I would.

second Cry if it will make you feel better. Cry if you feel like crying. Do both of these things within reason and don't ever take smack from anyone who screams "I NEVER cry!" The fact that they never cry is a much greater reflection of them, not you. Don't be a cry-baby about it, but don't think people don't cry either, because they do.
They also fart.

third You don't need a cell phone until you're old enough to call in to work. You have parents and they should know where you are and what you're doing - that's their job. I don't care if all your friends have one. You don't need it. When you get a job and can pay for it yourself: Dive in. Until then, try telepathy or use your friend's phone.

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